Are our kids being naughty or normal?


My kids are the masters of pushing my buttons. It’s like they secretly huddle up every morning, (hands in) and plot out what they are going to do each day to make my life difficult, (and BREAK!)

Is this really what’s happening though? Maybe they are just normal little human beings…you know, real people just like us. I truly don’t believe our kids are naughty brats to try to make our lives miserable. I believe they are just like us, trying to figure out the world, and dealing with all the stress that comes with it. Its not easy for us, so how can it possibly be easy for them?

When we tackle each day, and nothing goes right, we react. When children tackle each day, and nothing goes right, they also react. How are our problem more significant than theirs? Just because we are dealing with “the bigger issues” doesn’t mean their issues are less significant.

It’s seems like we are always comparing our problems to other people’s problems. We are very judgemental about it also. “he/she think THEY have problems?” I think this also is the case with our children. I know not being able to locate your left shoe is not life threatening, but to them, neither is not being able to pay the electric bill.

They may be little, but they still have worries. When they throw a fit, yes…most of the time they are just being unreasonable assholes, but sometimes it may be more than that. Sometimes they may not be trying to act naughty, they may just be having a really bad day. Just like normal everyday people. I have bad days all the time. (That sounds so depressing.) I have bad days SOMEtimes. I lash out. I act like a child and I usually take it out on the people I love most in my life because that’s just what we do. I don’t mean to do it, but sometimes you just get so caught up in things, that you just don’t think it through. Most of the time our reactions to situations burst out before we  realize it’s happening.

Tantrum now – stop, think, and breathe after. Ridiculous right? But we do it ALL OF THE TIME.

We are adults and we do this. Our kids have even less control over things. They have less ability to think things through. Maybe not “ability” but kids seldomly ever stop and analyze, well, ANYTHING.

So sometimes when we think they are just being naughty – maybe they arent. Maybe they are just being normal.


Do the butterflies just one day fly away?


Once upon a time there lived a boy and girl. They knew very little about each other, other than the fact that they were head over heels crazy about one another. That was all that mattered. They had little cares about what the future held, as long as they faced it hand in hand. Butterflies were their fuel, and love was their destination.

Time marched on and the boy and girl now knew everything about the each other. Their hopes, their fears, their joys, and their sadnesses. This made them even stronger. This grew a bond between them that was untouchable. Butterflies were their strength, and love would hold them together.

But then it happens. Out of nowhere, life becomes a routine. The world throws obstacles at them from every direction. This made the boy and girl question that maybe what they had thought they had, was just not real. Maybe the simple things like butterflies were never really there to begin with. They could no longer feel them, so how could they possibly still be there.

The boy and the girl are starting to give up.

The butterflies were no longer fueling them. They could no longer feel the strength that they had once given them. Had they gone away forever? Do the butterflies just one day fly away?

The boy and the girl decide that maybe they can find those butterflies and bring them back. They have to still be there somewhere. They decide they are worth finding, and they are worth getting back. So they search for them, and they do it together. Love is their fuel and butterflies, their destination. They work together and rebuilt that bond. Love is their strength. After some effort on both parts, they finally find the butterflies once again, and just as they had hoped, the butterflies put them back together.

Never stop looking for your butterflies…..they may fly away, but they can always be found again.

Tuesday Giggles!


Disclaimer: I adore my kids. I promise. Humor is my way of getting through. My kids appreciate it….most of the time. Please don’t take me too seriously. I just love to have a good time!

PS – School is almost over for the year. Break is coming. Get your big girl panties on, it’s going to be a looooonnnggg summer!!


Want to start making a living on your schedule, and start living life?


Hi! I am a overworked, underpaid, single mother with two kids. I work 2 jobs to try to keep afloat which leaves me next to zero time to spend with my kids. I have two degrees that are getting me nowhere. I want to live the dream. I want to be able to work in my sweatpants. I want to be home with my children every day that I can. I want to be able to actually LIVE my life I am struggling to pay for.

If this sounds like you also, maybe we are destined to do great things together. I want to build a Young Living essential oil empire. I want to build a super succsessful team of people that want the same things as me. I want to take this amazing product that I love and turn it into a career that gives me the freedom to LIVE. I want to help people and get paid to work for a company that I love, doing something that I love.

I’ve been an oiler with Young Living for three years now. I have seen the potential people have when they, HUSTLE. Hustle is a term used a lot, that I have used very little. As of date, I don’t do anything to make my business succsessful. Yes I am ashamed. This company has been at my fingertips for 3 years, and I have yet to take the leap. I have a super supportive team that is super succsessful and I am ready to follow their lead.

Are you?

Lets do it together! If you love essential oils, you will LOVE Young Living. We are 100% pure, and we can prove it! Essential Oils have been around for an eternity, and I strongly believe they are here to stay. They can not be replaced by something better. They are here, and they are changing people’s lives all over the globe. So use it to change yours!

What are Young Living Essential Oils?



Sound like a lot to take in? Yes, because there are so many uses for oils. It really seems overwhelming, and it can be. Is it impossible to learn? It’s not. The best way to learn is to research. Pinterest, Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube are LOADED with info!

How do you make money sharing oils? Exactly that. You SHARE! It’s so simple I am kicking myself in the butt for not stepping up sooner! My team shares how they use oils on in a daily basis on their social media and people want to know more. So you work with them and you find what works FOR them. It’s so simple.

What exactly am I trying to “sell?” (this is a very sketchy word in the oil biz. You are really not trying to sell anything. You’re not a vacuum salesman going door to door, you are a normal everyday person just sharing what you love about your product. People love succsess stories!) So…..basically the Young Living starter kit is BOSS when it comes to taking the oily plunge. Here is what is included:

imageIt is everything you need to really get going. And it’s all pretty so taking successful photos to share is a BREEZE!

What are in those bottles!? Well, I’m dying to tell you, because these are your KEY oils! The perfect set to start with. (And thieves is in there. Thieves is the MOTHER of all oils and basically the main reason people start uses YLEO.) Here is what is included with a couple ways to use each oil in the Premium Starter Kit:

Research these! They are all you need to know starting out!

So now what do you do? Well, if you want to join a super awesome team (we call ourselves LEMONDROPPERS) reach out to me! You can email me at, you can find me on facebook (Chantal Beerntsen) or you can look up my facebook group, Oils, the young living essential kind. I am ready to do this, are you!?

Oh, and one more thing! That premium starter kit is $160.00. Sign on and join my team, and I will give you the $50.00 dollars back that would be considered my commission! That drops the price to $110.00 for everything you saw above. Not as bad right!?!? I really want to succeed in this, and my success is based off of your success, but our overall success will be based off us working together. So let’s do this! I don’t feel like going to work anymore – so we can’t waste anymore time!!!

Lots of Love –


A tribute to my “crazy” oil.



Dear Ylang Ylang,

I am an emotional roller coaster. Between anxiety, ADHD, and a goofy ovary that requires a high hormone dose to remain in my body, sometimes I feel dizzy, and most times I feel crazy. After a solid year of you by my side, I am finally here to say, thank you, and to share you with the world.

I love you.

Mom’s. Friends. Ladies. This oil is gold. I strongly urge you to locate a bottle immediately and give it a try. I’m a hyper, nervous, hormonal MOMSTER and although this doesn’t, “cure” that, it makes it more manageable. It also smells good, and that helps when I bath in it throughout the day.

No joke, buy it immediately.



How, “just a minute,” can make your life hell.


“Just a minute.” Three words I say to my children like 5 billion times a day. Seems harmless, but is it? Let’s think about this a little bit here.


“Mom, come look at my puzzle.” You’re busy doing whatever. “Just a minute.” Continue doing whatever it is your doing. “Mom, are you coming to see my puzzle?” Still doing whatever you’re doing. “I said, just a minute.” “Mom! Mom! Mom!” Now you’re itritated and go in there, definitely irritated, and probably let them know that you are irritated before you even stop to praise them for their hard work on their puzzle.

I get it. Maybe you don’t want to get up 20 times to see each individual piece of the puzzle being added to their masterpiece. Maybe if you just say, “just a minute,” 20 times they will forget and stop asking. Chances are they will stop asking, but they will not forget that you did NOT do it.

So now it’s bedtime.

“Brush your teeth.” They don’t. “I said go brush your teeth.” Nothing. “Did you brush your damn teeth?” They say they will in, “just a minute.” 10 minutes have passed. “Get in the bathroom and brush your teeth or no puzzles tomorrow.”

Well, what do they care? Take the stupid puzzles away. You never went to look at it anyways, so what does it matter?

“Just a minute.”

Think very carefully everytime you decide to use those three extremely dangerous words, because they can and they will come back to haunt you.